Over
the years I have gone through many changes. Some of those changes consist of
physical (such as my height and appearance) and even personality changes. I
have noticed that over the years I have become more outgoing and confident in
myself, as well as secure in my skin. I have grown to like myself more and
accept who I am, knowing that there is nobody else in the world like me. Seeing
different qualities in people has helped to shape my personality in the sense
that I am able to view qualities that I both like as well as dislike. Growing
up is part of life, as well as the challenges that come along with it. Even
though the struggles are hard, in the long run they make you stronger and a
better person. My family is very important to me, especially when I need
comforting, but friends are the ones you spend most of your time with growing
up, and they are the ones who see you go through hard times and are always
there for you. Boyfriends will come and go, but it is your girlfriends whom you
share laughter, memories and secrets that will be treasured in your heart for
the rest of your life. Therefore, my friends are very special to me and have a
huge influence on who I am now.
One thing that I love and always will love about
friends is the high hearted spirit and jokingness that comes along with it.
Having a true friend means that no matter where you are or what you are doing,
you will be able to always have fun! For example, I share some of the funniest
moments of my life with some of my closest friends, Tony Arredondo, Robert Gutierrez,
Josh Nunez, Aundrea Flores, and Stephanie Murillo. We are able to laugh and
have fun anytime together. They bring me so much joy in the sense that when I
am with them, I know that I will have a tremendous time filled with much humor.
Friends are also great for cheering you up when you are feeling blue. One
example of that is Yajaira Del Valle. She is always hilarious no matter what,
and we are immediately immersed with laughter. Though Yajaira and I are not
very close when it comes to our personal lives and situations, we always seem
to have fun-filled joking times that can brighten my day no matter what. These
are some of the uplifting qualities in which my friends have a major effect on
me.
Although fun and laughter are great, there
will come a point in time when you are desperately longing for advice. These
tend to be the times when you turn to your most trusted, longest friends. I
have had days when I have gone through situations when I just do not want to go
to my parents. Some examples of these are boy problems, as well as girl drama.
Since my friends can first-handedly relate to me, they come into excellent use.
One of my best friends, Stephanie Murillo, always has the best advice to give
me and seems to know what is right. Another quality I love about her is that no
matter, what she is always encouraging and never brings me down. I have seen
girls in situations where they are afraid to tell the other one the truth, or
simply that they are wrong. Stephanie is not afraid to say, « Princess you
messed up, and I want to help you fix it ». From these moments arose a strong
friendship has developed that will last a lifetime ! Though Stephanie and I do
go through times in which we vary in closeness, no matter what we will always
have a solid firm friendship providing support systems for each other. I am so
grateful for her, along with all of the memories we have shared. She
is definitely a friend worth turning to, and a tremendous example of
how to be a true friend.
So many girls today in society will sacrifice
anything, even their reputation just to « fit in ». Yet what exactly does it
mean to « fit in »? Some might view it as hanging out with the « cool clique »,
even if you do things that you would have never dreamed of doing. Others might
view it as being up-to-date on fashion trends, or liking popular music of the
time. Though these ideas of « fitting in » might seem correct to some girls, to
me those words have a definition that is able to vary from person to person.
Part of having a true friend is being able to act yourself around them.
Changing your personality for people will get you nowhere but insecure and
confused. Who wants to put on an act for society? I believe the answer to that
is nobody! Being myself is so important to me, that if I feel like I have to
change who I am just to get somebody’s approval means that they are not even
worth my time. I am so blessed to have the kind of friends where I am able to
just be the crazy person I am, than rather being fake and unhappy. When it
comes to being in a clique or being you, I would pick being yourself any day of
the week. Stefani Gonzales, probably my oldest friend has seen me grow up and
evolve over the course of my lifetime. One reason why we get along so well is
because we are able to just be ourselves and not worry about pleasing each
other. This is the basic building block to having true friends…if you can’t be
yourself than who can you be?
Over the course of my life I have seen friends
come and go. Yet I have remained close with my oldest truest friends all
because of our ability to be truthful and loyal to each other. I am able to
turn to different friends for different things; such as laughter, motivation
and even just wanting to talk. My friends are one of the most important things
in my life right now, and without them I would probably be completely lost and
in dire need to companionship. Yet I have a lot more to learn about growing up,
but one thing I know for sure is that the only way to have a true friend is to
be a true friend. Also, relationships do come and go, but the good ones stay
and memories last forever. Friends are so important to me and I cherish
everything we go through together!
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